Whether in fitness or in life, we have certain people we
look up to. In bodybuilding, many guys wanted to be like Arnold , in Baseball if you were a kid in the
90’s, Barry Bonds was an idol to many boys and upcoming Baseball stars. My
favorite sport as a kid was Basketball and watching the greats like Michael
Jordan, Patrick Ewing, Hakeem Olajuwon, Scottie Pippen, Allen Iverson and John
Stockton. I idolized many athletes in that time and had dreams of wanting to be
like them. It wasn't meant to be.
We like to
compare ourselves to the idols we have whether athlete, physical culturists,
celebrities and/or people in the corporate world. At times we mimic how they do
things and the way they handle themselves. I fell for that kind of thing too
and it got me injured sometimes and even broke my spirit because since I
couldn’t do what they do why should I be any different. That’s just it, you are
different; you have different shape, different body and a very different
personality. There are people we admire but certainly should never be like them
because they have their own ways of doing things; they have their own problems
and their own way of making themselves happy. You on the other hand should
focus on what makes you happy, finding what separates you from the rest of us
and learning who you are.
We have
family that expects a lot of us sometimes, there have been times where people
alienate themselves from others because either it’s not worth being around them
or the people don’t want you around. It’s tough when something is expected of
you, you are told to do this, do that, be polite to others, speak when spoken
to, go to college, be a lawyer or doctor, play football because your dad did,
be bold and upright in a beauty pageant, smile at the camera, rule a kingdom,
there are so many things people expect from us and none are more tougher than
your own family breathing down your neck.
The only
thing you ought to expect from is learning who you are but also understanding
the unexpected outcomes that go with that. You are one person, one body, one
soul. You cannot always be as strong or smart or sophisticated as the next guy
so why should you try to compete or compare to others when the only person you
should compete with is yourself. Learn what makes you happy, compassionate,
what you love to do and where you want to go. You may not always see what lies
ahead but you better damn sure know that there will be something unexpected
that comes along and it happened for a reason
Nobody can
do what you do. We all think differently and way may have similar backgrounds
and interests but how we shape what we do is very differently. Some of it is
complex, other times it just comes natural. You are you and you can be great if
you apply yourself to what you’re passionate about. Don’t let anyone tell you,
you can’t do something because someone is better than you or you ought to be
“like everybody else.” I’m very proud of what I do and I love what I’ve learned
along the way. Like I always say, be awesome and don’t let anyone tell you
different.
