When it comes down to being a man, you're taught this or you shouldn't talk about that, hide your feelings so they're not used against you later, be cold, don't show weakness and most importantly don't cry like a little bitch; do any of these sound familiar to you? So basically, you're taught to be an emotionless robot or act like you're angry. Quite frankly, some of that stuff is a bunch of bullshit. That tells me, you are taught to live in fear and that everyone is against you, even the people in your life. Should you be open about everything, hell no but you shouldn't be ashamed of who you are either.
Injuries happen to everyone at some point unless you've lived under a rock and were taught to be careful with everything. Do I feel you need to brag about your injuries? No, even those that believe an injury under a certain circumstance is a badge of honor which the majority of the time really isn't. In sports, injuries are more common than a goal, run or point and some are very devastating and end careers while others may be more of a scratch or a sprain and you still go out there or lay low for a few days. In life, some injuries completely transform you either physically, mentally, emotionally or all three. Injuries make us suffer but they also teach us lessons that only those who have similar or we're the only one who can understand it.
I don't brag about my injuries, I'm open about them because they're a part of who I' am, they're mistakes I have made and had to come back from them, they're ones that changed my entire brain chemistry, one injury changed my entire outlook on fitness and one broke my skull when I was little. They're not badges of honor, they're teachers and I continue to learn from them and adapt so I can keep living. Some have been taught to not talk about them or show they're painful because for some god awful reason it's a sign of weakness and you won't be seen as a man.
Injuries teach us to make certain choices and whether we can come back from them or not. Some never get that opportunity and die from injuries and it's not always their fault. When I broke my legs, I had to choose whether to make myself strong and push through what would lie ahead or I could've just let them wither and not give a damn about myself and stayed in a wheelchair longer. Because of the meningitis, I couldn't speak very well until I was about 6 or 7 and with problems in my right hand, I couldn't pick up a pencil for a long time but they taught me how to overcome those issues and turn them into strengths. I'll never be 100% from the things that happened to me but that's ok, the world goes on and like everyone else, I have to adapt to it.
When people brag about injuries, they treat them like they've won some special award. When it comes to military, (uncorrupt) law enforcement and firemen there's an exception because they sacrificed their mind and bodies and get injured for a cause for which in many cases are heroic. Some people make too much of an injury that is a little over the top for example: every now and then a famous quarterback breaks his pinky, he'll make the front page of a newspaper and fans will send sympathy cards and roses but what about a soldier or cop trying to save someone's life dies? you'd be lucky to find him/her in the obituaries of the same newspaper.
Injuries happen in life and we can choose to overcome them or let them consume us. You don't need to shout to the world about every injury you've had because at times, some injuries are completely irrelevant and no need to mention them but there are those that you can never come back from and not everyone is going to understand them but I believe that sometimes being open about yourself shows character and you're not afraid of what others may or may not think because in reality, what people think of you is none of your business. If you're willing to be open about who you are and what you have suffered and overcome, the negative stuff could end up being just dusts in the wind.
Be compassionate and remember, you don't always know what someone is suffering from so do your best to be mindful. Some of us are continuing to learn this.
No comments:
Post a Comment